It is a wonder why people are sometimes scared of asking, how do you receive if you don't make known your request. The Holy Bible says in Matthew 7:7; "ask and ye shall receive.....", so If you don't try asking; how do you receive when the person that can help you is not a magician to be certain of what you need. Nigerians especially always assume people must know their needs.
However, when you ask, if it is something reasonable, he will surely help you.
2. Tell him you are willing to earn it, but not with your body.
Don't except every man to be a Good Samaritan, as some men are nicer and understanding than others. However, for those who believe in something for something, emphasize you are not lazy and don't mind working to earn what you need, but it is imperative you make him understand you are not exchanging with your body. Different men need different things in exchange for their funds, it could be simple things as playing assistance, running errands or even giving them updates. Just think of what you have to offer that will keep them happy enough to part with their hard earned money.
3. Don't try to seduce or lead him on. Be factual about your intentions.
Most young ladies get it wrong by leading a man on when they want to collect money from a man, what they don't know is that it is a big turn off for serious minded men. Some men end up not helping such girls or insist on getting laid from them for wasting their emotions.
Always be real about what you want, better to be in a friends zone and benefit greatly than waste eachother's time cockteasing for nothing.
4. Be useful to him.
Usefulness doesn't have to be sexually, it could be emotional, you can be a friend, listen to him, advice him. Let him see you as a sister, friend and confidant. You should be there anytime he needs your attention, you should be dependable, someone he can count on and share his secrets with, once you have earned his trust, he wont disappoint you financially whenever you need him.
5. Ask for help only when it is imperative.
Don't ask for financial assistance over mundane things, or simultaneously, a man is not your atm machine, don't always expect manna from him concurrently, be thoughtful and put yourself in his shoes having someone who only request for money all the time, annoying !!! Isn't it ? Don't be a user, you should request assistance for things that are necessary for your improvement and have a deadline like school fees, house rent, hospital bills, leave recharge cards and manicures for your boyfriend, and if you don't have one, get a job or try number 2.
6. Pray and always show appreciation.
God holds the heart of kings, talk to Him to favour you as you make requests. Prayer opens doors. With favour, you might not even need to ask before people surprise you with monetary gifts. Also always show appreciation even for little things, then you might get more when you really need help. Appreciate the dinner, drinks, phone bills, visits, even phone calls, in doing that a man would definitely want to help when bigger needs arise. Every man likes an appreciative woman, because an ungrateful person is worse than a snake bite.
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