I Beat Up My Woman

Lovers who have physically abused their female partners shared with Olori Wendy why they were prompted to such socially unacceptable act and the consequences, as well as the status of their relationship afterwards.

Well, my wife have always been a treasure  to me, but, In a case where we have misunderstandings, I'm tempted to beat her but I just relax and maintain my standard.
But, on one fateful day, she caught me with my concubine in my car, and immediately, she embarrassed me by hitting my lovely ride with woods and other sharp object that she's going  to break my girlfriend's head with a wood. And that was very embarrassing in a broad day light. I was disgraced in the car, I had to drive away immediately. On getting home that day, I was told I wouldn't be allowed to come into my house by my wife, Haba! in my own house? I had to act like a man and beat her up because she has done more than her right, Neighbours came out  to intervene and the matter was settled by friends and family members. On that same night, I knew I have wronged her by raising my hands up to beat my wife.
I apologized to her and we had great SEX that night and she just forgot all I have done  to her that same day, she also begged me to never flare up next time but, I also promised her never to have girlfriends any more, but na yeye promise *wink*. Bebe nlo noni.
In conclusion, we love ourselves more than we used to be and that was all.
Thanks .
Bidemi, Lagos Nigeria.

Tosin stopped picking my calls two months ago. What was her reason? Nothing! This was a girl I spent my money on when I had enough. I never involved myself with any other girl since we started dating early last year. I was so much in love with her, and we've agreed to get married. Lately, I've had issues financially. And I suspect it's my financial challenge that has caused all this. Although, she said that wasn't the reason. The last time we met at her house, I almost beat the hell out of her because of her "nothing" answers. I've moved on now cos I believe she's not worth it. I've decided to focus on getting back on my feet instead of wasting my energy on beating her.
Dipo, Lagos Nigeria


 

Everybody knows me, I'm a Ðon, a player, biggest baddest gee in town. I don't love and when I love, I love Hard !!. I met this babe years ago when I was hotting !!, hotting with mad cash and since I had the money, I changed this girl from a creepy low life to the hottest Diva in town. Everybody knew her, infact people can't talk to her as per Don's babe.
Not only did I spend my money on her, I built a house for her father in the village cos we were planning our wedding and I didn't want my friends to know she's not from an OK background.
Imagine!!!, just imagine, one month to our traditional wedding, after I had bought her a Murano, changed her phones, laptops, wardrope etc just for our trip to Nigeria. I caught her with one of my boys, a small boy that I was teaching work at that time. I don't know if it's because he's a coloured guy that got her attracted or what, I was like shit!!!, cos this boy is even younger than her with three years. I caught her with him on the bed we both sleep in as a couple. Meeen, I shot this guy in the leg, two legs. If not for God and my brother that was with me when I caught them. I could have shot her brains off, however, I beat the shit out of her. I kicked her, I was maaaad cos I never cheated on her for two years that we dated, a whole Don in this town.
The scars are still on her face, arms and etc cos I beat her blue black till my boys grabbed her from me. I collected every single thing I gave her that was in my house though I couldn't touch her account, let her keep the change.
I have not loved any girl after her. I even saw her two weeks ago in a club in the regular side while I was in the VIP. She was looking smelly. Shit to her !!!.
Don, Johannesburg, South Africa

 

My girl caught me with another babe, slapped me across the face, slammed my brand new tv on the floor, and threw my phone in water...I slapped her back, Plenty slaps sha...she cried a lot, stormed out. I chased her. Apologised. Pet her and gave her the best make-up sex ever.
Two years later, we are still waxing strong
Ifeanyi, Lagos Nigeria

 

I'm a girl in love with girl, met her at a gay's party in Capetown and got talking. coincidentally, she happen to have dated my male cousin before, he actually left her when he found she was bi. Well, we dated for eighteen months during which time my family (they didn't know I'm a lesbian) wanted me to get married to the numerous suitors after me, but I declined cos my girl said she wasn't into men anymore and was ready to get married to me. I didn't mind, I've only had sex with men twice in my twenty eight years life and it was full of shit, I didn't feel nothing. I lost my virginity to a girl so you know that feeling.
Needless to say, I told my family I was a lesbian and they were horrified and kicked me outta their life. My girl and I got a nice condo together and were living blissfully. She's from Congo while I'm South Africa. I got a rude shock of my life while searching for my hair pin in her bag cos we use the accessories and stuff a times, saw an invitation of her getting married to a guy in Congo in two weeks time. Whew, she had lied she was gonna travel that weekend to see her sick mum in Congo and visit her family. I was devastated and shocked. She was in the bathroom when I made the discovery. As she stepped into the room smiling lovingly at me, I slapped and attacked her in full force, she's much smaller than me so it was easy to pin her down. I handcuffed her to the window with our sex toy (handcuff),  and began to beat and interrogate her. Shit I had lost my family's love and suitors cos of her and she was gonna get married and run off with a man. I threw her best clothes up in the furnace, got the diamond and gold jewels I gave her on christmas and valentine's day and threatened to use the police against her if she talks shit. My other cousin is a police and she knew she can't make any case against me being a foreigner.
I kicked her out of my house that night 11pm.  I don't know where the hell she is now but I know where my heart is, totally broken
Naledi, Capetown SA